I have been taking time watching and listening to women and men, about what really “turns a man on” is something that is very interesting to me. For this reason I just thought I should take some time to write my thoughts on this interesting subject. Men are always talking about “oh! That girl turns me on, my Gosh I wish I could lay my hands on her” she is so fine that she makes me drool” and if it’s a saved brother they will say “ Lord! have mercy ” I just wonder have mercy on you or the sister? Anyway it’s just a thought. On the other hand I hear girls say oh my gosh this will surely turn the brother on! Being the person that I am I take interest to go into details and find out what these words mean to both guys and girls.
I see girls focusing so much on the outward looks, the right shade of the lipstick and powder, talk about the perfumes, my Goodness! There are so many and some names you can’t even mention here, clothes is another one, talk about the one famous Low-cut Jeans, Gosh! Sometimes you have to play blind to keep your salvation lol, there are dresses that expose Cleavage so carelessly that you wonder, if there was shortage in the shops for materials, it breaks my heart to know that most guys are turned on by the Hips, Lips, and a bit of flesh hanging openly without covering it and girls dress in suggestive clothes and wear perfumes that confuse the mind of a guy, like the famous saying “dress to kill” sister when did you become an assassin? I think there is more to a woman than all that. I wanna tell you what I know “turns a real man on” I know with the title and image I have used for this article, some might have been thinking I will write something sexual “ hope it wasn’t you, sorry just pulling your leg mate” turning a real man on, is not so much on sexual appeal or exposing your cleavage carelessly and painting your face like you are getting ready for Miss Universe, pliz understand this, turning a man on is not just used when you are talking about a sexual encounter, “Turn me on “ also means inspire me, motivate me, make me glow, give me some life, wow! I feel like I wanna preach right here, a real man is turned on by a lady who has got a mission, vision and a saves her God with her life. A lady with values and character, someone you won’t have to question her stability all the days of your life. I want you to carefully examine the following Verses
Pr 31:30 Charm and grace are deceptive, and beauty is vain [because it is not lasting], but a woman who reverently and worshipfully fears the Lord, she shall be praised!
1Pe 3:3 Let not yours be the [merely] external adorning with [elaborate] interweaving and knotting of the hair, the wearing of jewelry, or changes of clothes;
1Pe 3:4 But let it be the inward adorning and beauty of the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible and unfading charm of a gentle and peaceful spirit, which [is not anxious or wrought up, but] is very precious in the sight of God
Looking very fine and hot is fantastic, but it must be balanced, being a lady of noble character should not just be reduced to a bunch of Hips and make up, at the core of a lady’s heart they should be dignity and responsibility. Get it from me there a lot of Guys that are craving to “be turned on” the right way, may you never think of becoming a Ciara or Beyounce look alike coz you wanna catch a man, you will keep attracting the wrong Fish, why do you think a lot of girls today are doing butts and boobs enlargement coz the videos and talk shows have lied that guys are turned on by things like that. Sorry am not a victim of such garbage! Am a real man and am turned on by the right tools!
Steady Divine Phiri
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Well said and written Steady.
ReplyDeleteI'm responding from a woman's point of view when I say I am glad there are still guys who are turned on by a women's character and heart - who she is inside and her faith and walk with God.
However I still think appearance plays a very important role in a male being attracted to a female. What happens if you don't have the body or looks to even pull of short shorts/ hipsters/ low cut tops etc. There are some women who are overweight or too thin etc. Other women who dress way too shabby or not stylish enough and won't get any attention that way either.
I think there needs to be a balance between the outer and the inner. A woman should dress modestly but she should also put some effort into her appearance, actually care about her body and walk out the door with confidence. Being confident in yourself also will cause another person to be interested in you.
Heidi.
Supporting what the Pastor has posted, If the inner character of a woman is Motivating, it automatically shows on the outward! Most men who are turned on by outward looks are vision-less! Real Men are turned on by Vision!
ReplyDeleteThe long term vision is usually God's assignment which a man should be part of in any case!